wala lang.. namiss ko lang magblog, babawi talaga ako soon..

in the meantime, here's an article worth reading..para sa mga hopeless romantic na gaya ko!!

Afraid to LoVe? or Afraid to LoSe?
by shooting_star
http://www.peyups.com

A lot of people have, at least once in their lives, said that they are afraid of loving (myself included). We fear the prospect of love entering our hypothalamuses (not our hearts) and changing the natural courses of the relatively normal, ?kilig-less? life that we used to live. When in love, we risk a lot. We risk changes ? in daily routines, in our relationships with others, in the status quo of things. We especially risk getting hurt, which comes in a lot of forms? like being rejected or betrayed, busted or two-timed. Arguments, cool-offs and break-ups are also among the hurtful things that can happen to someone who is in love. That is basically why some of us people say we are afraid to love? because we are afraid to get hurt. We find it difficult to deal with the pain that is usually intertwined with the concept of love.


Come to think of it, is love what we are really afraid of? Change one letter of that word, and you get the word ?lose.? A guy loses when the girl he?s courting happens to fall for someone else. A girl loses when her husband cheats on her and chooses the mistress instead. A lover loses when the loved one decides that he or she wouldn?t have anything to do with the other person anymore. These scenarios can happen in all kinds of variations. The sad thing is, they all bring about hurt. Sometimes this kind of hurt becomes too much for a person to bear. It can cause sickness, it can cause depression, it can cause all kinds of reactions. The worst case of which would be suicidal attempts. Now that probably occurs when the person in love feels that he or she has lost everything ? pride, hope, happiness? and even the will to live -- because of the pain that love brought about.


I guess what I?m really trying to say here is that it is NOT love that some of us are afraid of. I mean, what?s there to fear about love, right? Love is such a wonderful feeling. It inspires, it makes our lives so much brighter, it gives us an opportunity to make someone feel special. It is not really something to be afraid of. What we are afraid of, though, is to lose, and the pain that threatens to come along with love, as well. To lose the inspiration that love can bring. To lose one?s self so much in the pleasure of loving and being loved for fear that it might not last long. To lose the feeling of being wanted. Sometimes, these things come unexpectedly when we fall in love, and we mistake the fear of losing for the fear of loving. That is why we hold back. But then, if we don?t risk letting ourselves fall in love, we might regret it. As the saying goes, ?It is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.? Mushy and idealistic, isn?t it? But it?s most probably true.


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