reference: email from a friend re Quarter Life Crisis

don't know if I'm just bored and/or for just the fun of it is digesting this article hoping that it could shed light on my present situation. but then again, let's see what this could give me:

the symptoms (this is quarter-life crisis according to the article)

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get hot and scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.

You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all. You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.

Suddenly change is the enemy and you cry and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. The stupid ones plateau, the smart ones rise.

You get your heartbroken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You wonder what in the hell is wrong with you.

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

my realizations

i may be feeling confused now and it seems that everything about life scares me. The uncertainty of things bothers me that much that I have to cry over and over again just to unload myself of that creeping invasion of jealousy, anxiety and frustration. They say this is what reality is, with the power to overwhelm an individual, to make him feel less of himself and be sorry for his every weakness. But how can i really expect life on earth to be easy and sensitive to my needs/feelings well in fact from the start i know that im living in an already fallen world!!!

i should not be expecting much of this lifetime, cause there's still a "forever" to be excited of.. what remains true is that I'm not of this world and only a pilgrim waiting for my turn to get to heaven and claim the room which God has prepared for me. And this truth should give me a great relief knowing that everything shall come to pass. Every painful event shall see its end.

But God is not finished with me yet. That's why Im still here on earth battling every trial that comes my way. These hardships serve as God's tools to mold me in the person that He wants me to be. The person suited to the greatness of heaven..

all above claims are valid...yes especially on the realm of the mind. But deep inside my heart, where my faith resides and where God's throne is located.. something is being developed... the kind of endurance that was a product of the seed of faith that God has planted in my life.

Unto where God leads me, there should I be.. the exact situation to see how great my God is!!!

Others may call it quarter-life crisis, but i'll say that these are God's mysterious ways of bringing out the best in me..one of His creations that was wonderfully and fearfully made..